I’m still waiting to hear back from the Home Office in the UK on whether my visa has been approved. They shoot for 30 business days for priority visas, I think I’m at around 14 business days. This is an occasion where the weekends work against me. The summer time is also a busy time for them so it could make my wait even longer (hopefully not).
Michael-Ryan joked that The Brit got married and the sex stopped immediately. Welcome to married life!
Shocking as it may sound, I’m someone who needs a lot of attention. I don’t really think I need it in my everyday life or among my group of friends (I don’t think so anyway) but I do need it from my significant other. When we’re together we don’t have to constantly be talking, I’m ok with just being together but when we’re apart, I need to talk every day. I would be ok with talking all day, every day. But for some reason, my introverted Brit is not as comfortable with that.
Part of the reason he married me was so he didn’t have to talk to me via text every day.
The Brit only has himself to blame. When I left England after our holiday romance, he talked to me all the time via whatsapp and fb messenger. But he says he doesn’t like to message that much (after he lured me in with talking).
So for this bout of our long distance love affair, we agreed to only talk once a day but now we video chat, there’s a lot of talk in that time frame and we get each other’s undivided attention. Sometimes it’s for half an hour, sometimes for several hours. The average is an hour. We chat every day unless I can’t get online. We might send a quick message every now and again but our once a day video call has helped to make the long distance part of our relationship, not quite as painful.
Plus, out chats have really helped make The Brit more real to Lily and Brayden. Lily gets to say hi to him almost every day which I think will help make it easier when I move to England.
Technology is a wonderful thing. Without it, I don’t think we would have a relationship. We would have ended when I left England, but having the ability to talk and be a part of each other’s lives while separated has actually made us closer. I didn’t fall in love with The Brit while in England. I fell in love with him from our daily chats, oh, and our trip to Vietnam, but the chats helped!