I’ve never spoken publicly how the Brit and I met, it’s not a big secret, well, it was at the time because I’m pretty private about my dating life but apparently I’m willing to be more open about my married life.
We actually met on Tinder. I was going to be in England for 3 months and stated on my profile that I’m not looking for a hook up. I wanted romance and I gave a list of things I did and didn’t want (I know, you’re so shocked, lol). I’m a girl who says what I mean and mean what I say, unless the words are diet or exercise.
I honestly don’t know why I swiped on the Brit, when I looked at his profile later, he wasn’t smiling in any of his pics. I’m big on seeing a person’s teeth, especially in England, if you know what I mean, lol. Plus, I think a smile changes how a person looks and conveys some personality so I was quite shocked that I swiped on him. He did mention he really liked hammocks in his profile which made me laugh, maybe that’s why I swiped.
I like to talk to someone before I agree to meet them. I’m inherently lazy so don’t want to go thru the bother of getting dressed up and putting on make-up if I don’t even like the person. Here’s another thing that was different about the Brit, we didn’t talk much before I agreed to go on a date with him. He would ask me something, I would answer and it would take him hours to respond. I thought I had talked to him all day but actually, we maybe talked a few minutes. He’s a tricky sort. Once I agreed to go on a date, he didn’t bother talking to be at all after that. I think I messaged him the day before to ask if we were still going out. I told him it was a smart move on his part to disappear, didn’t give me a chance to talk to him and change my mind.
He found an Italian restaurant in my area to take me to since he lived over half an hour away. The biggest thing I remember about our first date was the fact that getting the Brit to talk was like pulling teeth. I kept having to ask question after question to keep the conversation going. I felt like there wasn’t much of a connection. He says he didn’t talk much because he couldn’t get a word in edgewise.
When he dropped me off I thanked him and gave him a quick hug and thought to myself, I’m never going to see him again. And I didn’t hear from him for almost two weeks, I thought he felt the same, which was fine. Turns out he was just playing it cool and he asked me out again. Normally, I would have said no but I had decided, if I wanted a different outcome, I needed to start making different decisions, so I went on a second date with the Brit. And this time, I let him speak. 🙂
PS: He calls me Lulu because that was the name I used on Tinder and it stuck.